My mother was living with me when I first heard Arnold Patent speak about releasing attachment to the outcome (see my blog of April 1). The basic idea is that better things come to us if we trust the Universe than if we try to write the script ourselves, fill up a wish list with specifics, and start “efforting” and making affirmations about the future. We do best living each day as it comes and staying alert to opportunities. If we are meant to have what we wanted, once we release it, it will come back to us anyway. However, according to Arnold, it is crucial that first we have to fully release our attachment.
I told my mother about all this, not with the idea of proselytizing, but just to keep her up to date on what was going on in my life. I didn’t think she had paid much attention. Then one day I came home to find her beaming from ear to ear with a triumphant smile:
“I did what you told me to! I totally released my attachment to the outcome, and I got my bird!”
What bird?” I asked. I had no idea what she was talking about.
It turns out that she had been coveting a metal bird on a stake in the garden next door which the previous owners had left behind when they moved. The house was being remodeled. She told me that she had peeked over the fence and asked the workers if there was any chance she could have the bird. The man poked around a little and finally concluded:
“There ain’t no bird here, Ma’am! Sorry.”
Sad and disappointed, she resigned herself to not getting the bird. She figured she wasn’t meant to have it and forgot about it. Then several days later the doorbell rang, and the workman was standing at our front door with the bird in his hand.
“Is this what you wanted, Lady?”
She was overjoyed. To this day I keep the bird in a special place in my garden, a reminder of my mother and the power of releasing attachment.